Life demands spontaneity. It's better to be spontaneous and let things happen in your life. Know that all the virtues are there inside you.
Identify with the virtues and know that negativity is just a visitor. In time, the virtues manifest with help of meditation and service.
We can pass on ideals to someone else only and only if we ourselves have imbibed and demonstrated those ideals and virtues.
Be passionate about something higher. Standup to criticism, be attached to virtues you have and be indifferent if someone insults.
There are different kinds of strength. Knowledge is a strength. Love is a strength. Compassion and a sense of belongingness is also a strength. Forgiveness is a strength. Strength does not only mean having a lot of money. All the virtues and positive qualities within you are your strengths.
The less you are attached to your virtues, the more self respect you have. If you get attached to your virtues, you look down upon everybody else and they (the virtues) start diminishing. Non- attachment to virtues brings the highest self respect.
Children are like empty transparent vessels, whatever (knowledge) you fill them with, they will reflect the same and behave in that way. If you fill them with fear and wrong ideas, then they behave in that way. But when we give them good ideals and noble virtues, then they grow up to become ideal and responsible citizens.